Special is Good

Over the years, I’ve had many conversations about why there are people with medical issues.

Shortly after finding out that I was having twins and that one had medical issues, I remember a particular conversation with someone.  They were asking why God would punish babies by “making” them have medical issues. 

Another conversation was with a parent who had recently found out that their daughter had a particular syndrome and would not live a “normal” life.  They kept talking about all the things their daughter wouldn’ get to do and how “sad” her life would be.

I’m quite passionate with my responses to these particular conversations and others like them.  Most anyone who knows me, knows that my faith in God is what has shaped my personality and my ability to know that there is a bigger plan, a bigger picture and that in everything there really is good.  However, even if you don’t have a strong faith, why would you want to look at life from a negative perspective?

Special children aren’t being punished.  The parents aren’t being punished.  Special children are a great blessing. I don’t know any special children who aren’t happy.  Their attitudes are phenomenal.  Their spirits are engaging and their smiles are contagious.  I consider it a true gift to have been given a special child. 

To the parents who said they were angry about all the things their child wasn’t going to be able to do, I encouraged them to realize that they weren’t actually angry for her.  They were angry for themselves.  They said their daughter was extremely happy.  So, I reminded them that if they don’t focus on what she would be missing, neither will she.

As with everything in life, you can either chose to focus on the negative or you can focus on the positive.

And as the old saying goes, “When much is given, much is expected.”  As a parent who was blessed with a special child, it is my duty to share Sienna’s contagious, joyious spirit.  May her positive outlook on life remind you that just because you may think something is a negative, it doesn’t have to be that way.  It’s all in how you look at it.

7 thoughts on “Special is Good

  1. To borrow some words of the Apostle: “May the Lord bless you and keep you, may He make His face shine upon you, and give you [countless blessings forever, including] peace.”

  2. Chrissy, It’s been awhile since I’ve seen you and the girls, but as I watched the 20/20 special about you and your family, I was impressed by the positive and upbeat atmosphere that surrounds your family. What a blessing and a witness you all are.

  3. Hello Chrissy, I came across your blog this morning on FoxNews. Thank you for a great blog and I have to say I agree with you 100%. I have a child with special needs and he is my pride and joy (along w/his brother). We his family don’t see his disability. We treat him like everyone else. People have asked, aren’t you sad that he is not normal. I tell them with a great big smile, my child is normal. He’s what God gifted me with. He’s a very smart 5 year old, he’s very loving and best of all he is mine!

  4. As a proud father of a special child, you nailed it Chrissy. my daughter was born with Rett Syndrome. I wasn’t being punished, neither was she. Susan taught me so much about life and how precious it is, she made a positive impact on more people in her 24 years than I will if I live to be 100.
    Bless you and your whole family. Enjoy life and always be special
    Dan Frisbie

  5. What a fantastic message. I hope that through Sinny’s life and your family’s amazing example more people will broaden their way of thinking!

  6. As a child born with a congenital malformation you are absolutely correct on looking at the aspects of life. My mother never felt that I wasn’t “normal” even though all doctors said I would be. I remember my mom telling me a story about a woman who threw back my baby blanket while my mother was holding me. This woman said to my mother, “poor baby” and a classic response followed from my mother that went a little something like this. “This baby is not a poor baby, she is loved and wanted baby.” Then she said, “why don’t you save your “poor baby” for the ones that are found unwanted in the dumpster.” (At that time there was a story regarding a baby that had died in a dumpster). Now in my thirties, I have had and will continue to have a great life despite of all comment, stares and whispers. I know I look “unique” and I love myself for it. And I thank God for my great family and your daughter is blessed to have a mother and family like yours. Your strength and wisdom will surly pass to your children…bless Sinny and your family

    Sinny keep your head up and never look down. Your are unique in the eyes of humans but perfect in the eyes of God!!!

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