Over the years, I’ve had many conversations about why there are people with medical issues.
Shortly after finding out that I was having twins and that one had medical issues, I remember a particular conversation with someone. They were asking why God would punish babies by “making” them have medical issues.
Another conversation was with a parent who had recently found out that their daughter had a particular syndrome and would not live a “normal” life. They kept talking about all the things their daughter wouldn’ get to do and how “sad” her life would be.
I’m quite passionate with my responses to these particular conversations and others like them. Most anyone who knows me, knows that my faith in God is what has shaped my personality and my ability to know that there is a bigger plan, a bigger picture and that in everything there really is good. However, even if you don’t have a strong faith, why would you want to look at life from a negative perspective?
Special children aren’t being punished. The parents aren’t being punished. Special children are a great blessing. I don’t know any special children who aren’t happy. Their attitudes are phenomenal. Their spirits are engaging and their smiles are contagious. I consider it a true gift to have been given a special child.
To the parents who said they were angry about all the things their child wasn’t going to be able to do, I encouraged them to realize that they weren’t actually angry for her. They were angry for themselves. They said their daughter was extremely happy. So, I reminded them that if they don’t focus on what she would be missing, neither will she.
As with everything in life, you can either chose to focus on the negative or you can focus on the positive.
And as the old saying goes, “When much is given, much is expected.” As a parent who was blessed with a special child, it is my duty to share Sienna’s contagious, joyious spirit. May her positive outlook on life remind you that just because you may think something is a negative, it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s all in how you look at it.